Man regains through the tragedy of his conflicting passions and realize that joy and pain are both necessary, both are present in life. Learn to enjoy much of one as the other. "(F. Nietzsche, The Birth of Tragedy )
To understand what human beings are valued just happy to check out those ads for singles or doubles : joyful a nature tending to a constant good humor is by far the most popular character trait and, of course, even the most offered. No one dares to put on the market of emotional relationships showing a sad mood inclined to melancholy and the spleen , although perhaps in his heart feels sad and gloomy. After all those who live should feel like their single status with a sense of incompleteness and unfulfilled? Already act of writing, and then to publish an ad like this as implicitly communicates is looking for a solution to this discomfort. Yet, in all probability, just to counter this malaise, the text paints a deep and sensitive soul perhaps, but always ready to joke and a joke, always willing to take all the humorous side of things.
While basically a depressed person is not a product very attractive to a potential buyer, it is also true that the eager search of happiness and good humor to make it very guard who looks at this market. The explicit representation of himself as the most joyful and humorous personality the world should sound more like the cry of a showman than a realistic description of the subject in question. Who could take literally the exaltation of the miracles of a pan or a pill for weight loss without activating its critical spirit? Then it is not difficult to recognize that as proclaimed that joyfulness is precisely what is lacking in spirit to the so-called gay, what they need most. Therefore, if you do not want to get in touch with people rather disheartened and disheartening, to take a great care to ensure that the supply of wit and joy does not prove a sort of decoy. Then inevitably fall into the deception are those who most doggedly looking for someone who raise their morale. And so that the communication strategy by barker translates into more classic own goal: turn away those who could comfort the spirit and attract exactly those sad souls who can only worsen the situation. A sadness disguised as happiness can only deceive those who do not need so much thought to the difference between being and appearance.
The reason that certain phrases also apparently felt no discomfort being facetious just depends on who is unknowingly depressed by their own blatant cloaking their sorrows. Generally, it is transformed into a grimace that you draw a smile on the faces of those who usually hear phrases such as "laughter is the thing I do most willingly," "Sometimes one needs to have a good laugh", "laugh a little 'because laughter is good medicine." A no less depressing effect on the interlocutors is achieved by those who occasionally feel the need to tell a joke. What is perceived as harassment in the otherwise amusing story is the will of the storyteller to showcase a very artificial good humor, so to flaunt a psychological reality disguised to hide the real one. Explicitly spiritual content of the story is usually an implicit communication totally forlorn: "Look at 'that should tell jokes to be able to find fun things in life. "The jokes are by a small, insecure man-made island of hilarity in the dark sea of \u200b\u200bexistence.
Portraying themselves as being fans of happiness and laughter and then, usually , a clear sign of how much sadness you feel the same way as an enemy too strong to be able to compare with her. It feels so overwhelmed by its existence that the only evoke it makes her feel like a threatening presence. Yet it should be obvious to everyone it is not enough not to name things to make them disappear. Notoriously strategy ostrich never brings good results. The stark reality with all its sorrows so can be removed from the eye but no longer exists.
The strategy of the flight brings results very disappointing, since one can hardly escape an enemy who is inside. The hide and disguise is indeed a way to be with even greater virulence his aggression. The fear is not really fighting with unconsciousness, but with knowledge. How can you defeat an enemy if you do not know? And so, if you learn to resist the urge to push it away without the sadness as if it were a demonic vision, there is the opportunity to experience this great in some ways: to discover that it is not so terrible, that fact has also beneficial aspects. All
can, for example, to realize the benefits of those who find the courage to stay in bed one morning in the warmth soothed his depression, even if she were any disease. The act of rebellion against the daily burden of work can not fail to have positive effects on self-esteem. Similarly to remain quietly at home when friends or girlfriend wants to go to the game or dance provides an opportunity to effectively oppose the duty of happiness and lightheartedness. The strong-willed and conscious suspension of its obligations, including the fun, then it can take for themselves and for others the meaning of a healthy rebellion. In stasis dell'abulia one escapes the stultifying recur without the usual things that will and sense of life, which therefore produces depression and sadness. The goal can only be to regain the will to be what it was at that time or you can be. The gesture that apparently appears as a refusal of life with all its joys, actually accepts life in the primary form of freedom enjoyed by the insane, the infirm and the ascetics.
a closer look, then sadness, as well as other ways to escape the violence of taxation, is not really a disease but a significant reaction to food instead of the causes of the malaise leads it to remove them. There is just sick of this the power of attorney, namely partners, relatives, employers, colleagues, television presenters, ministers, priests, all those words that are siphoning off more or less consciously the mind and life of others. Must therefore think about all forms of discomfort such as medicine considers the fever: a rise in body temperature in a natural way that defends the body against infection. To this should be left to run its course without going down with the artifice of antipyretics. Similarly, the sadness as a gesture of emancipation from the world and its horrors has the function to free from the inconveniences and troubles of life. Far from being a sign of weakness on the contrary a show of strength because it gives the power to reclaim what is most needed in the ongoing confrontation with others, autonomy, independence, self-awareness.
Sadness can not then be considered the cause but the solution to the problems of the human condition in which it is necessary to deal with people and very depressing circumstances. And who knows how to enjoy the world and its affairs can not show too much surprise in the face of hardships that endeavor as well known as one not wholly independent from the others. If there was no penalty on Monday morning, the pleasure of the Sabbath would not be the same. Without working days no one would realize the day of party and also our life is not as important if not confined in space and time set by death.
If everything continuously draws the opposite then it is entirely reasonable to think of sadness as a source of joy. The satisfaction of living in peace with sadness opens the pleasure to represent and, therefore, to take his distance. The right of all human to find words for the pain of living, in a form of objectifying to contemplate or understand, is resolved in a bold gesture that appeals to life. Delivery, in fact, the man the pleasure of playful experiment, to play with the possibilities: the same causes that the bow, which they see the subject of suffering, a Once represented unfold tools available to its creative and playful mood. On the subject of pain becomes the subject of his representation, to be subjected to the tragic hero of his own sovereign will of others in fact, suffering from creature to creator satisfied.
A sadness not only lived but also represented, satisfying the urge to play and transformation, can shape it into harmony with their feelings. And in the pleasure of the transformation of pain into joy there is also its meaning. The pain makes it an object with its beauty and its function that allows for enjoyment and understanding it is contemplating. The option to mutate into a pleasant and meaningful experience that which is produced by the pain gives the fleeting thrill of feeling close to the creator, the instance in which anything is possible. The imperfections of grief, depression, despondency is becoming redeem in the game of representation, not its weakness but of its creatures. Although the position of one who is able to overcome the weakness of the creature and gain the power of the creator can only have an illusory nature, this illusion is to be accepted as an authentic resource. The fate of triumph over pain may well belong to humans only in the fleeting moment of the performance of its existence, not existence itself. But the pleasure of a game that turns sadness into its opposite is only for humans and it is foolish to deprive.