Sami Temimi, Québec

BELIEVE IN PRAISE OF EGO Rewarding

Selfishness does not sin as much action as misunderstanding
(Hugo von Hofmannsthal)

If there are certain ways to be appreciated by relatives and friends is a sure way to be hated and perhaps hate: the show on every occasion that an egoist recognizes only itself and its own interest. Selfish a nature it can be recognized early because usually there is an evident since early childhood. Just begins to walk one of the first targets of a child is selfish bin of ice cream in the freezer, or alternatively the second season, the door of the chocolates in the window in the living room. Its sole purpose is to accappararsi beautiful which pleases in spite of previous fair division among brothers. Is that child does not divide the tip of her aunt even though it was peremptorily requested to do so. And that is what requires the whole family channel cartoons, soap operas during the Mother's or Father's Day game. His first experience of social relations expressed already then, in their small, knowing that it will also lead to great in the jungle of the free market: None of his friends will take him from the missing figure, although it has double or triple, if not with the counterparts in quantity and quality of figures is absolutely unfair. And even when you leave work, so to speak merchant to devote himself to disregard the game, he is recognized at once: in a practice match football in the yard is what everyone wants to kick the penalties and punishments, one that never goes out and the ball does not go to to the goalkeeper when it is his turn.

Despite the efforts of parents, teachers and other educators to inculcate occasional that being selfish is wrong, even malicious, selfish brat continues to make its own interests in defiance of all teaching, regardless of any negative impact on relations with others. Nothing has the power to dissuade him from pursuing his selfish ends. The exhortation of the mother, or someone on her, thinking to others - perhaps with the lure of the reason the other there is always needed - is received with the greatest indifference. And sometimes the idea of \u200b\u200bsending in the parish is likely to have not anything good: not even terrible punishment from God - so far away and so divorced from its immediate interests - can convince him to surrender to what he believes is his personal benefit. There is no religious argument, nor those utilitarian in various ways that reward altruism, able to convince both better to think of others instead of himself. Would the fertile imagination of the child refuses to be intimidated by the future punishment of eternal fire, it is certain that the contempt and hatred of fellow land and educators are very poor deterrent against his natural instinct to overwhelm.

There are many reasons that make it almost impossible for his redemption. Even painful experiences that would suggest that it is more convenient, even for his personal purposes, to obtain the cooperation and goodwill of others, led him to persist in his attitude often masochistic to want to reward any price, often with heavy losses, its interest staff. The selfishness that has a perfect size does not let anyone blow from scratch in real life. As the missionaries devoted to selfishness altruism also pursue their goals profoundly indifferent to their advantage. The reasons for this persistence to their ideal of self-interest does not only depend on their nature. Culture also provides you with one of his decisive contribution. The strength of the recalcitrant child who lashes out against the teachings of parents, teachers and religious is, for example, fueled in large part also by the modern culture that is expressed, for example, in the organization of economic relations based on purely selfish. Who would not give to do to excel, to win the competition, it is an incompetent who does not deserve the success. And it is considered a parasite that can live only through goods and services produced by the most selfish, ie by the stronger and bolder. Any dishonesty, the instinct for domination at any price that spurs them to do and always have more than others, is for them a little insignificant spot redeemed by great service to the welfare of everyone, including the poor and weak altruists. The latter, clinging to the aid of the welfare state or a state employment or at least working for them - leaving their lives in the hands of the strong and dishonest for a good purpose - would be a symptom of a deep decline of the human family and degeneration of humanity who can not think of itself. And if the members of the aristocracy, active and aggressive, while pursuing his own interest, which would also be parasites, they are forced to sacrifice not only lives but also the environment in which they themselves live, is a special for them small. Focused on their task ideal to aim for the good of the individual self-interest do not care that every effort will be resolved in cutting the branch on which it sustains life itself.

The deleterious action of the selfish obviously does not escape those who are not selfish, those who from childhood have been limited to only eat the candy they are entitled and to respect the duty to defend the port in the practice match in the yard. The awareness of being in the right leads them to consider their way to be virtuous and to denounce the selfishness of others as an evil to be fought. Mindful of their chocolates and unjustly taken away long afternoons between two poles still without power run towards the ball, believe that the wrongs suffered by them are the work of human evil. In short, the fate of humanity would continue their personal fate of victims of the selfish right from early childhood. Is how I take you for a universal question of their personal and relational experiences disappointing, because of their altruism, are considering a general solution to saving all: the propensity to evil, selfishness must be suppressed by an authority which imposes a duty solidarity and mutual respect. Otherwise, they threaten, the world will always be unfair and unfortunate.

The award of justice and happiness is achieved then, according to them, refusing to do what you want, abandoning their own wishes and trust in the will and sense of justice of a higher moral authority, political or religious it is. The commandment to which they entrust their ransom of virtuous victims of the wickedness of others is one that requires everyone to submit to a much more important instance of self-interest. Given that research spontaneous, immediate and free to see them happiness always unsuccessful, opting to destroy in whole spontaneity, immediacy and freedom.

does not therefore seem misleading to think that the altruistic confused, not so different from the selfish, personal interest and inclination with an interest and a general tendency. They also rewarding part of himself, gratified by the generosity of the party. Without admitting it, and perhaps even without realizing it, reward what they are or believe to be, as indeed are also selfish. Both live in a partial and simplified size of their identity: some know nothing of the pleasure of trust their instincts, to the spontaneity and freedom to be who they are, others know nothing of the pleasure and gratitude to obtain benevolence others. So limited a vision of itself and its radical renunciation of a possible form of pleasure, can not produce relational imbalances. No coincidence that the selfish, once you got the goods they seek in the long run come to desire so strongly the affection and approval from others starts buying and pretending not to realize how they are obtained. If not the night would not be populated by wealthy selfish turn into hours of the night in very generous benefactors in exchange for some attention. And if the excessive selfishness has produced equally immoderate wealth grows equally the need for consent of applause and praise, not only have to take the field in politics, buying journalists and opinion makers, so there is always someone who, well paid, offer what no selfishness. You can not say that the altruists are not themselves at risk of falling into relationships just as ambiguous and paradoxical. Their belief of being able to be happy just doing good for others leads them to seek at every opportunity those who need them. I have found more and more opportunity to indulge their pleasure. If we are not aware of the need of the needy as much as those of them, then you are definitely at risk to engage even those who accept their help with discomfort.

A chance to restore balance in relations which are based on unequal relationships between who gets and who gives is to accept the idea of \u200b\u200bhow every human action is driven by what is called selfishness with contempt. But it is rewarding when it's not a selfish thought so unilterale and opens the possibilities to get pleasure from interpersonal relationships, where, ultimately, will not crush or making other enemies or need. "So it's a selfishness that is not inconsistent with altruism, ie what is erroneously thought to be its opposite. Not only can you love others or just themselves. In " love your neighbor as yourself " as the Bible reminds us, the love one has for oneself is inevitably linked to what you give to others. This awareness, capacity for example in the banality of love affairs, to understand how the desire to make happy the other arises from the consciousness and experience than it is gratifying to be the architects of the happiness of others. What then is called selfishness, more than a defect or a defect, is a form of stupidity: it focuses only on a part of himself with the false certainty as to the goal of running their own welfare. We wear blinders to run faster towards the goal and while we become insensitive to all removes stains caused in the race. In this sense we can speak of selfishness as a failure of conscience and knowledge, an error produced by a myopia unable to see that the ego is a fiction: what we call ego is only a part of us, something that is constantly changing, with more faces, and more likely to be manifest.