" The truth is bad: we have the art to not succumb to the truth "
(Friedrich Schlegel)
"If you do not tell you the truth, his nose grows like Pinocchio" is a warning that has plagued and continues to plague many children by forcing them to confess the source impressions of a finger in the glass with Nutella or bump on the front of the little brother still unable to speak and say, therefore, the truth of what happened. The luck of the novel by Collodi certainly depends on its literary qualities. However, it is undeniable that for most of his fame is also a particular debtor - the brilliant idea of \u200b\u200bthe nose that grows to report every lie of the puppet - that parents can use every time their children beautifully deny responsibility for most or marechella a less prominent. Relying on the uncertain relationship with the reality of small children get sincere thanks to the deterrent of an instrument so magically effective in showing off with undeniable clarity the difference between a lie and a truth. The fear of being nose grow out of childhood has influenced so many and it did cause even more damage than the fear of becoming a donkey if they were making bad grades or skipping school. How to explain, for example, psychoanalysts and developmental psychologists also attendibilissimo, it is the first childhood experiences that mark the fate of a human being. So the harm done to future adults of the nose that infallibly exposes the lies is not only to lead to the neglect of the pleasure principle in order to succumb to the dictates of an infallible authority to punish those who sgarra. The seriousness with which they and the peremptory demands the truth from children without in them the indelible mark of at least two convictions that inevitably cause large and small dramas in their lives as adults: the first is that truth is possible and the second that truth is important. In this way it is rooted in the belief that they say or find out the truth is always necessary, and that is also present when it is uncertain and questionable. From these certainties to feel the need to find any even when it is difficult to decipher or reconstruction, the distance is short. Moreover nothing is more easy to recognize a truth that it considers appropriate. There are also numerous those who under the threat of being seen as a liar unreliable are willing to confess a truth not even true. Who goes to a liar, indeed, very difficult to be recognized that for many other virtues it is better to be considered a villain rather than a sincere liar of dubious virtue.
The fear of punishment for every lie is so embarrassing when you come of age even if you know very well that the nose can not grow for no reason at all. It is probably for this reason that adults attach enormous value to sincerity, even with all their critical spirit and even if they no longer believe fables. Their children believe in magical nature of sanctions clearly continues to influence their lives as adults. This belief is manifested in their particular view of when confronted with serious matters, such as with interpersonal relationships, particularly those in love. Sincerity has such a high prestige in marital relationships that often gives preference to a candid and spontaneous partner beyond any rational assessment. So, for example, tend to prefer by far the one that claims to still think of saying things that you think facing a partner much more hesitant in expressing themselves. It is said that anyone who hesitates is contemplating a lie, as in generally suspected. His indecision, could, for example, be caused by its propensity to think twice before expressing their own truth. No coincidence that those who wish to put on the market for love affairs with a double listing often opts for a marketing strategy based on the formula: "sincere personality who always says what he thinks." Much rarer is to find who boasts of a nature rather reflective and think about things thoroughly before you speak or even who praised his willingness to change his idea of \u200b\u200btruth in the circumstances. To say very frankly and precipitation is what we think is believe, the best you can offer to its partners and all its stakeholders.
a markedly frank happy to demonstrate what is and think without subterfuge is certainly worthy of praise, and there are many circumstances in life where you can appreciate. This however should not overshadow the fact that there are at least as much honesty and immediacy that are truly impossible and it is completely unreal expectations that can be donated to the party so easily. This simple fact should be inferred as well as offering sincerity can be easy to show that there are no certainties, a ploy to hide their indecision, a form to show how you are. The idea of \u200b\u200btruthfulness crept in the knowledge of who was left impressed by parents who have used their doubts for educational Collodi's novel, assumes that there is the possibility to obtain answers to even simple and obvious questions of irreducible complexity. One such example is one of the questions posed by psychoanalysis, but that no analysis can complete my answer: "What are the real motivations that guide my thoughts and my actions?". Pretend to be able to respond with knowledge of the facts in this application means having to lie and, therefore, the only opportunity to be honest is to take note of how thoughts and opinions are determined by a desire not fully aware. mind, then, who guarantees the sincerity of the representation of a state of fact which can not be fully aware. The awareness of what can be precarious supply of sincerity put radically into question the idea of \u200b\u200btruth inculto many children of parents who claim children sincere. The relationship of humans with the false or true, indeed, a far more complex nature of what may occur in the detection of which finger was stuck in a glass of Nutella or which hand was armed the stone thrown at the front of his little brother still speechless.
Surrender to proclaim the truth of what one thinks one is and has been done, but not resolved in the hallway and in the triumph of anarchy of opinion, memory and representation. The fact that there are truths that are not fully accessible does not mean that we should not answer their thoughts and their actions. This, however, think first of all the sincerity in a direction that does not aim to reach a destination is inaccessible: that of a perfect type of what one says and what it is. The lawsuit finally becomes fully into account the facts thoughts and feeds the illusion that the only point of interest to guide the representation of both the character of truthfulness. This delusion prevents, for example, to realize all the many will be added to the desire to tell the truth and sometimes even replace it entirely. Not always, indeed probably ever, the means to communicate with words only get in the service of truth to proclaim purified from other intentions with the love of the truth have nothing to do. Whenever, for example, critical neighbor, you would do well to ask if you are guided by respect to unmask a defect, perhaps in order to improve it, or if it acts in the critical also a subtle desire to hurt him, or to establish a hierarchical relationship, or even simply to give vent to their discontent. What we often gives generously as frankly the service of others may well be simply an expression of bad character that does not tolerate the differences themselves, which wants to impose on others or download them on any tedium. Already acknowledge that it is not always a love of truth that makes judgments and offer reflections Express yourself, but often factors that even if we knew would be difficult admission, is a big step forward in recognizing the energy that is deceiving us .
is for this reason that hardly means doing a service to others when they say nasty things. Rightly, those who feel exposed to criticism in general does not perceive the benevolent will of those who take to heart the correction of errors of others to make them better. The reason for the supposed sincerity of a trial in many cases is not rewarded with gratitude in all probability depends on the fact that it is perceived for what it actually is: a cowardly way to attack the next. In fact, if there is not contaminated by pure thought interests more or less conscious, amnesia, manipulation, feelings or whatever, if any statement is to intent which often heterogeneous have nothing to do with the desire to speak truthfully, then do what you want to go through sincerity is nothing but a selection bias that simplifies a very complex reality. Then we might as well lie in a conscious way and admit, at least to themselves, that the unpleasant truth is nothing but a tool to manipulate others according to our wishes. If anyone really care about the sincerity can always express their will without transfiguring it prevaricating with the cloak of sincerity.
It has always been violent, but at least it is so true and correct because it also assumes responsibility for what you are doing.
People myths that they have not any intention to bully or hurt others can, in many cases, with the consciousness of the whole quiet, ignore the irresolvable problem of sincerity and to select those reviews and those opinions can be welcomed by stakeholders. A relaxed atmosphere with no grudges and will prevaricatorie fund is the condition most favorable for each correct in a sense desirable ideas and behaviors. Hardly aware of having to accept review in front of a truth revealed by hasty candor from others. More likely to do so, if you must, in complete independence, in a slow and progressive realization. The love of truth can then ask the patient waiting to occur when conditions ripen. The wait can be quite long and therefore necessarily be accompanied by several lies. The nature of truth not an opinion can not be considered a reason not to accept it and do not do it right. If you really want to consider the important truth, then what matters is to facilitate the conditions that may occur.
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